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After almost 9 years at a job I really enjoyed, I made a decision to leave. The reason is my supervisor. I don't know why she didn't like me and emotionally abused me, as I was praised for my work by other departments. I spoke to the personnel director who then told my supervisor about everything we had discussed in confidence. I need closure on this. Can you help?



After tolerating an abusive supervisor and a reckless personnel director for an extended period, it is not surprising that you decided to leave. It is also not surprising that you seek some closure on this experience. One step that will help is to find a job that is far more rewarding, energizing, and equitable. However, you should not dive into the labor pool without having a new job lined up.

Once employed in the right position, you will spend more time thinking about new projects, activities, and objectives, and less time on the problems you encountered in your last job. This will help carry you down the road to closure.

Ultimately, closure is going to come from within you. You need to decide to close the previous chapter of your work life. One technique that can help is to sit down and express all of your thoughts about your last work experience in writing, just like a letter. You do not need to mail it to anyone, as the therapeutic value will come from the writing itself. When you reach the final words to close the letter, you should also reach the closure you seek.



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