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I work with an employee who jumps from one assignment to another, never completing any. I told him that I think he has attention deficit disorder, and he became very upset with me. I was only trying to help, but he has not gotten over this. What should I do?



There is an important point that needs your attention: making a diagnosis of attention deficit disorder is a very complex matter that is better left to professional caregivers. While it is possible that your co-worker indeed suffers from attention deficit disorder, he could just as easily be overwhelmed by his job responsibilities, absorbed with personal or family problems, or even suffering from substance abuse.

When you see a fellow employee truly struggling on the job, you can suggest that he or she consider getting some help. Some companies have employee assistance programs or a human resources specialist who can provide help or referrals.

It is also possible that although your co-worker is jumping from one project to another, it may only appear that he is not completing any. After all, if he is truly getting nothing done, his manager may have something different to suggest.

At this point, you should apologize and let him know that you made the comment only because you are concerned about him. On a broader basis, when it comes to giving feedback to others, it is important to avoid using labels, lest a label be cast on you, too.




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